relationships

Checking In

When you are under 21 and in a serious relationship, you have a lot to deal with. Comments from others, peer pressure from your friends to go behind your S/O’s back, huge life transitions, and that’s just to name a few. The best way to deal with it all in my opinion, is to check in with your S/O every so often. Jacob and I did this every three months on the nose. What does “checking in” mean? I am glad you asked! Whenever you get to your check point, you sit down and have a discussion about everything you have been dealing with in the last three months that don’t come up in normal conversation.

 

Have you had any negative feelings toward your S/O? Have they hurt you in some way you didn’t feel like talking about when it happened? Has there been a new trend in your partner’s behavior that you’ve noticed that may be impacting people they love differently? How are your life goals coming along, and are your life goals still compatible? Are you helping each other become the best version of yourselves or the opposite? Are you going through any personal changes, and if you are is that affecting your compatiblity? These are some topics you might want to discuss with each other.

 

One of two things will usually happen, you guys will either walk away from this reassured or you will identify some red flags. When conflict happens, you will need to decide if it is something you two can work toward solving or if it is something that may be enough cause to absolve the relationship. The beauty of having these check ins is that you will be laying everything out on the table, if you need to break up this is a chance to have a clean break. One that isn’t born out of a crazed angry argument but one that is rationally decided on by both parties.

 

Hopefully you two will make it through these check ins more connected and sure of your relationship than you were before. You will absolutely gain clarity about your partner and yourself, which is the important part of dating/courting, and you will gain confidence in your relationship which you need as a shield when people come at you thinking they have gainful insight on your relationship when all they are doing is throwing stones. However, no matter if you stay together with your S/O when you have these discussions; knowing you are on the same page is everything you need to have peace with them and with yourself.  

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Time Management

I am so sorry about going ghost last week, our family cars actually exploded and needless to say that was an adventure that kept me away from my desk! It also had me thinking quite a lot about time management. Jacob and I by the grace of God were able to figure out how to be everywhere we both needed to be while borrowing my brother’s 1992 Volkswagen while mine was at the shop (thank you, Alex), and shopping diligently for the car we bought. I am the kind of person who lives and dies by an organized schedule, so I’ve come to realize that anyone from sixteen to twenty five years old tend to be at least ten minutes late to everything. We have to realize- when you are late to anything you have planned, you are telling that person [friend, service provider, family members, etc] that YOUR time is far more important than THEIRS.

Here are some basic and effective steps on how to manage your time so you can make the most of the twenty-four hours you’ve been given-

 

  1. Wake up on time!

I know this one is hard, but when you train your body to wake up when it needs to it gets much easier day by day. Not to mention you will have an easier time falling asleep… there is a lot to be said for training your internal clock.

 

  1. Use an agenda!

Using a weekly planner makes so much of a difference. You have a chance to set your priorities and goals for the week and break them down day by day. It mentally prepares you for whatever you have coming up, and allows you to lay out what you have going on by the hour so any tasks are branded into your mind. There is something actually life changing about seeing your daily priorities written out. I start by listing my top three priorities out for each day at the beginning of the week, then I block off the hours per day that I will be at the salon. If I have anything arise throughout the course of the week I pencil it in as soon as I can, so I can move around my other plans with plenty of advance notice if need be.

 

  1. Clearly communicate with others!

Your mom told you dinner was at 6:00. Dinner is at 6:00- if you are going to be late for any reason PLEASE for the love of all things good call/text/email the host in question and let them know how late you estimate that you are going to be. Life happens and running late is sometimes inevitable, just please keep in mind that it is common courtesy to keep those you made plans with in the loop, it really isn’t hard.

 

  1. Use your unscheduled time wisely!

Down time is a rare and beautiful thing in today’s world, and you should be able to do anything you see fit with it. However, if you know dinner at your Mom’s is at 6:00 and you have to leave at 5:30 to make it on time, and you have nothing to do from 4:00-5:30, then don’t choose an activity that will be hard to break away from when the time comes to leave. For example, my husband plays PC games with his friends from time to time. These games can last over an hour, so if he has less than two hours of down time before needing to leave, he will choose not to play the game(s). That way he doesn’t get caught up in something that he feels obligated to finish and can fulfill his priorities.  

 

Keeping a responsible sense of time is SO important in our adult lives. When you take control of your daily schedule, you will be amazed at how much less stressed and tired you will be because you will be constructively using every hour you’ve been given!

lifestyle

What to Buy In Bulk

When you are a family of just two people, going to a wholesale market such as Costco or Sam’s Club can seem kind of excessive, however there are some things I have found that buying there saves us SO much money!

 

Cleaning products: if nothing else, these are my top recommended things to buy at Costco. Seriously, it’s May and all of our cleaning products we have had since January and there is no sign of them running out anytime soon. Cleaning products are annoyingly expensive and I am just not a huge fan of homemade cleaners, so if I only have to buy them once or twice a year then I get to cut them out of my weekly grocery budget entirely.

 

Product Kroger Costco
Clorox Clean Up $4.69 for  1 32oz bottle $10.89 for 1 32oz bottle and 1 180 oz refill *that’s about $11 for about 6.7 full bottles of cleaner*
Windex $5.29 for 1 26oz bottle $14.39 for 1 32oz bottle and 128oz refill *that’s 5 bottles of windex*
Tide $28.09 for a 150oz container $20.98 for 170oz *more tide for less money*
Downy $11.49 for a 103oz container $11.36 for 170oz container *again, more product less money*
Swiffer Mop/refill $30.48 for a starter pack

$18.59 for 24 refill pads

$22.99 for a starter pack (with more refills)

$18.79 for a 60 count refill pads

Cascade Dishwasher Tabs $15.89 for a 46 count $21.99 for a 90 count

 

I hope you see why this works!

 

Meat: meat varies a lot in price so I can’t make a pretty little table for it, but I can tell you that last time I looked for chicken in Kroger it was almost $6 for two chicken breasts, and I get a pack of 12 chicken breasts at Costco for under $16. Which, for meal planning, is great! Obviously, the same principle applies for other meats too.

 

Snacks: buying snacks in bulk is always a good idea if you are big snackers. We are not but Jacob does love his Doritos and it is usually a way better value for us to get them at Costco, unless there is a good deal at Kroger. These are options you just have to weigh when you are planning your lists!

 

Other: Socks, Underwear (mens at least), water filter refills, cute umbrellas, movie tickets- the list goes on!
Remember, always check around different stores for the best deals!

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7 Recipes that Share Common Ingredients

One of the key elements to meal planning and saving money is choosing recipes with common ingredients. You may think that if you have ten to fifteen ingredients you will always be eating the same or similar food, and I am here to tell you that it doesn’t have to be that way! Here are seven of my favorite recipes that share eleven common (very inexpensive) ingredients that are actually delicious!

 

I understand that these recipes don’t work for every diet, but I hope you can use this as a base model for planning recipes and grouping them together to save money and eat well!

 

1.Chicken and Rice with Veggies

  • 2 chicken breasts
  • 1.5 cups brown rice
  • Chopped up veggies (whatever you like) We most often use celery, carrots, and mushrooms

-Put your veggies in a separate pan with water, enough water to cover the base of the pan and turn the burner on low, they will be perfectly steamed when everything else is done! For us two carrots, a stalk of celery, and a few mushrooms are plenty.

-Over medium high heat- pour 4 cups of water in a pot and add a cup and a half of brown rice. I don’t care what the instructions say, I can’t get my rice soft and fluffy any other way.

-Season the chicken to taste and cook it in oil (not butter, butter is full of trans fat and is pricey). I use black pepper and cook the chicken over onions.

 

2.Black Bean Burgers & Oven Fries

  • 1 can of Black beans
  • 2/3 cups of oats
  • 1 egg
  • ¼ tsp Black pepper
  • 2 cloves of garlic
  • Just a few small mushrooms
  • Potatos

-first, start the potatoes. Slice them up into french fry slivers and then put them in a pot of water on high heat. Pre-heat the oven to 450.

-mash up the black beans, then mix in oats, egg, diced up mushrooms, garlic, and black pepper

-once the burger mixture is prepared, strain the potatoes and lay them out on a cookie sheet. Drizzle olive oil and salt over the potatoes and put them in the oven.

-separate the mixture into fourths and put them in a pan with oil on medium high heat, cook each side for 8-9 minutes, keep the pan oiled.

-when the burgers are done, the potatoes should be too. Serve and enjoy!

 

  1. Chicken Noodle Soup
  • 1 box of chicken broth (if you know you are both going to want seconds, add 1 cup of veggie stock)
  • 1 Chicken breast
  • Rice vinegar
  • Sriracha sauce
  • 2 cloves of garlic
  • ¼ red onion (any onion works, I like red)
  • Black pepper
  • 1 tbs chopped cilantro (optional)
  • 2 carrot sticks
  • 3 stalks of celery
  • A few sliced mushrooms
  • 2 cups of egg noodles

-start the broth, add the stock(s) and chicken first, on high heat. While it’s heating up add a drizzle of rice vinegar and 1-4 drops of sriracha, depending on how much spice you like. Then add some shakes of black pepper, the quarter of the onion, and the cilantro.

-while the chicken is cooking in the broth, slice the veggies.

-when the chicken is finished (usually takes about 10 minutes) take it out of the broth and chop it up. Then add it back into the broth with the veggies.

-when the veggies have cooked down (softened) add the egg noodles

-when the noodles are soft the soup is ready!

 

  1. Spaghetti
  • 6 oz of ground turkey
  • Spaghetti noodles (or if you want to skip buying extra noodles the sauce is amazing over egg noodles)
  • 1 can Tomato sauce
  • 1 can diced tomatoes
  • ¼ chopped onions
  • A few sliced mushrooms
  • 2 cloves garlic

-start boiling the noodles

-in a pot or saucepan, dump the tomato sauce, diced tomatoes, onions, garlic, and mushrooms. Add seasonings if you like, we like basil and oregano. Let it simmer while you cook the meat.

-cook the ground turkey and add to the sauce.

-serve the sauce over noodles

 

  1. Stir Fry
  • 1.5 cups of brown rice
  • 1 chicken breast
  • 3 carrot sticks
  • 3 celery sticks
  • ½ red onion (any onions work, I just like red)
  • Several mushrooms
  • 3 eggs
  • 2 cloves garlic
  • Rice vinegar
  • Sriracha
  • Cilantro (optional)

-In a pot on medium heat, add 4 cups of water and 1.5 cups of brown rice

-cook the chicken in a pan with oil, keep the seasoning simple, we just use black pepper and a clove of garlic

-in another pan, add some water to cover the bottom and add all of the vegetables chopped. Cover with a lid and keep on a medium heat setting

-prepare the sauce you will fry the rice in, ¼ cup of liquid aminos or soy sauce, 2 tbs of rice vinegar, a clove of garlic, and a tsp of sriracha

-when the chicken is done, remove it from the pan, dice it up and add it to the veggies, keep the pan with the oil and seasoning in it

-when the rice is done, move it to the pan and stir it up with the sauce you made, spread over the pan surface and let it sit on a medium heat

– scramble the eggs in the pan you made the chicken in and add to the chicken and veggies

-add the veggies, chicken, and eggs into the rice and serve

 

  1. Chilli
  • 2 cans of tomato sauce
  • 1 can of diced tomatoes
  • 1 can of black beans
  • ½ a chopped onion
  • 2 cloves garlic
  • 10 oz Ground turkey
  • 2 tsp chilli powder
  • 1 tbs oregano
  • 1 tbs sage

-dump everything except the ground turkey into a pot and let it simmer on a medium heat

-cook the ground turkey

-add turkey to the chilli base and serve

 

  1. Turkey Burgers & Vegan Mashed Potatoes
  • 6 oz ground turkey
  • 1 clove garlic
  • 1 egg
  • A few finely chopped mushrooms
  • ¼ sliced onion
  • 2-3 russet potatoes
  • ½ cup chicken stock
  • 2 tbs coconut oil

-slice up the potatoes and boil them until they are soft

-while the potatoes are boiling; mix the ground turkey, garlic, egg, and chopped mushrooms in a bowl. Divide the mixture in half, roll up two patties and cook them in a pan with oil on medium high heat.

-strain the water out of the potatoes and add the stock and coconut oil. Whip until it’s the texture you like and salt if you wish

-when the burgers are done, top them with sliced onions, serve the potatoes on the side, and enjoy!

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About Me

Hello!

 

I see you have stumbled across my blog. I didn’t really want to start this blog, but then what was a small idea became a small idea that goaded me on every single day. Which brings us to right here- right now.

 

I am Kate: I am a millennial, I am a daughter, I am a sister, I am a wife, I am a hairstylist, I am a career woman, and now I suppose I am a blogger too. My goal in this new adventure is to help my fellow millennials navigate the challenges we all seem to be facing. Hurdles including cooking for one or two people (and preparing healthy, scrumptious meals at that), small space living, finances, relationships, and blowing all of the low expectations our elders seem to have placed on us out of the water.

 

1 Timothy 4:12 says  “Let no man despise your youth; but be you an example of the believers, in word, in conversation, in charity, in spirit, in faith, in purity.” I for one refuse to apologize for my age, my gender, my race, or any other part of who I am. I have been given this life and it is up to me to do the right thing with it; no matter if I am twenty-one or seventy-one. Yes, some of us (millenials) are crazy people who can’t seem to get our facts straight… but most of us just want to make the world we live in better tomorrow than it was today.
I always hear that our generation was never taught things like how to write a budget, how to meal plan, how to organize small spaces, and whatever else. I however have been taught these things, so I will do what I can to help us all. I have been given so many amazing opportunities in this life, more than I can count. Of course I’ve learned a lot in twenty-one years, however I will never claim to know everything. I only want to let you in on what I learn along the way if you care to learn with me.